Entitled woman accuses friend of losing her expensive sunglasses after she left them at their home, she demands friend pay for them: ‘She waited two years to urgently want them back’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Feb 9, 2026 6:00 PM EST

When you forget a precious item at a friend's care, how long are you willing to wait before you venture out to get it back?

Speaking as a forgetful person with at least one type of ADHD, I forget stuff at random places all the time. I've had to replace my AirPod case twice now because I keep forgetting mine on the train, and I can't even tell you how many pairs of sunglasses I lost in 2025 alone.

This also means that my lovely friends usually find at least one of my belongings whenever I hang out at their home, or even whenever they drive me in their car. It's almost tradition now: we spend time together, I leave, and then they text me a picture of the thing I left behind, and I let them know when I'll be around to pick it up. 

Every single step in this tradition is really important, because if my friends didn't hold on to my stuff after they got left behind, I would be down money and left without many items that actually mean a lot to me. And just as important, I always go and pick these belongings up, ensuring that they don't get completely forgotten or lost at someone else's home before I have a chance to get them back.

When the woman in the story below let two years pass without picking up her sunglasses from her friend's house, it was clear, at least to me, that she was never going to get those sunglasses back. How could she expect her friend to hold on to this pair of glasses all this time, when she didn't even make an effort to come get them, or show her friend any sign that these glasses were important to her?

But, alas, two years after the initial separation, this woman decided she wanted the expensive sunglasses back, and was shocked when her friend told her they had no clue where they were anymore. She went as far as blaming her friend for "badly taking care" of the sunglasses, and even demanded they provide her with a replacement pair…

As someone who has been in her shoes plenty of times, I would never reacted this way, but keep scrolling to read the full story to decide whether or not you agree with me…

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  • AITA for losing my friend’s expensive sunglasses almost 2 years after she forgot them on a trip?

    I (20s) went on a trip with my friend (also 20s) in September 2024. At the end of the trip, she forgot her sunglasses at the place we stayed.
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  • Since she went back to her city first and I went back to mine, I took the sunglasses home with me so I could give them back later.
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  • I immediately told her she'd forgotten them, told her I had them, and she thanked me.
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  • In February 2025, she asked me about the sunglasses, and I confirmed they were still at my house.
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  • I never used them or touched them after the trip because they aren't mine, I left them in their case in my dresser.
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  • Fast forward to now: she came to my city to visit. She mentioned the sunglasses, and I said I'd need to look for them because I hadn't touched them since the trip.
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  • While we were at the mall together, she commented that I needed to find them because she loved those glasses, and even joked to the salespeople that if she didn't find them, she'd have an excuse to buy new ones.
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  • A few days later, she stayed over at my house but didn't mention the sunglasses again until after she left.
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  • A few hours later, she messaged me asking me to look for them because she really wanted them back.
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  • I searched my house, gathered every pair of sunglasses I could find, and sent her pictures so she could identify them.
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  • She then sent me a picture of the exact model (Ray- Ban Wayfarer) and none of the glasses I found matched it.
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  • I had told her before that last year my bedroom closets and cabinets were renovated, so all my things were taken out and reorganized during that process.
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  • After that, she sent me voice messages crying, saying the sunglasses were very sentimental to her in addition to being expensive, and asking me to look again.
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  • I told her I wasn't home at the moment, but that when I got back after the weekend I'd search again with my mom, although I was pretty sure I had already found all the glasses we had.
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  • She then sent another message, saying that if she had known the sunglasses would be "so badly taken care of," she would have asked me to mail them to her back then.
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  • This upset me, because she's the one who forgot them, I kept them safe (as far as I knew), never used them, and she waited almost 2 years to want them back urgently.
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  • I replied saying that if I had known they were that important or sentimental to her, I would've stored them differently or mailed them to her, but that she never communicated that before.
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  • I also told her I can't afford to buy a replacement pair, and obviously can't replace sentimental value, but what I can do is give her one of my own sunglasses (which are cheaper) as a "replacement".
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  • She hasn't responded yet, but this whole situation is very upsetting to me, and I want to know if I am in the wrong, and how I can make this right.
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  • AITA?
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  • Tarni64 INFO- are you sure, yourself, that the picture of the expensive Raybans she sent you are, in fact, the ones she left behind? I would go through the ones you have found, and make sure that they are all glasses you know are yours, and your "friend" isnt trying to get you to foot the bill on a new pair that are more expensive that what she lost. And if you hadn't picked them up for her, she likely wouldn't have gotten them back anyway...
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  • Upstairs-Rub5536 Original Poster's Reply I can't be 100% sure those are the exact glasses, but I don't think she would do this to get me to buy her a more expensive pair. She has the money to buy them again if she wants to. Tbh I couldn't tell you if the 20+ glasses I found in my house are all mine/my moms cause I rarely ever wear sunglasses, but I'm pretty sure none of the ones I found are hers.
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  • alady12 Is it possible that your mom mistook them for hers? You mentioned that you have some of your mom's glasses. Why not send the picture to her and ask. Either way you are NTA after 2 yrs you are not responsible for her forgetfulness.
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  • Upstairs-Rub5536 Original Poster's Reply Very possible, that's why I gathered all of the glasses I found in my and my mom's room and sent her a video of all of them
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  • shadyzeta579 NTA. If they were so important and sentimental, she should've asked you to mail them to her. Instead, 6 months passes before she asks if you still had them. Then an entire year goes by before she inquires again. So she's upset about something she hasn't had in her possession for 1.5 years. You're not a storage facility. Did she think you would put them in a safe and lock them away until she was ready to get them?
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  • Upstairs-Rub5536 Original Poster's Reply From the way she said "if I had known they wouldn't be well taken care of, I would've asked you to mail them to me", I do think that's exactly what she wanted me to do
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  • CMeNaught There is no way they are actually that important to her; she's just trying to turn a profit now that she knows you don't have them to return. (In fact, if she visited and only raised the issue AFTER she left, are you sure she didn't grab them from your room herself?) If she tries to demand you replace them, offer her the depreciated cost of a used pair, minus two years of storage fees. NTA.
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  • Upstairs-Rub5536 Original Poster's Reply I know she didn't take them because I looked for them before she came over, but I do like the option of buying a used pair if she really pushes for it. I did think it was weird that in the 24 hours she stayed at my house, she never mentioned them once, and only did so after she left my house.
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